Life can be a challenge, especially when you're pulled in different directions with responsibilities at every turn. We know. We're living, breathing demonstrations of balance-seekers. As a couple, we have our small business to manage, community outreach, college, ministry leadership positions, artistic endeavors, a child to homeschool, full time jobs, our marriage, five kids (one with special needs), two cats, a dog and no vehicle. For us, balance has proven to be quite elusive. So what do we do besides pray the heavens down and beg God for some grand epiphany? We simply do what we can when we can do it. We kick 'pressure' to the curb and send 'unrealistic expectations' outside to live in the alley. We're human and we have to allow ourselves to be human.
There is no magic formula, elixir or pill, there's just a realization that we're not superheroes and there's no need to martyr ourselves at the hands of 'demands'. Pride had to be eliminated from the equation and a desire for peace replaced it. I, Ro, had to stop doing some things in the name of preserving sanity. I'm currently in school seeking a degree in Social Work. I also just started a full time job a couple of weeks ago. The addition of the job caused about three new gray hairs to appear. I didn't know what to do because I found myself neglecting things that I love like spending time with the kids and playing instruments -- things that are a pivotal part of my life -- in order to find time to study the Bible, do homework, rest or clean my room. I couldn't figure out how to get everything done. And then the solution hit me: I can't. I can't get everything done and that's ok because I'm human. So I withdrew from a really challenging class that had intense reading demands in order to find my footing in my life. I had to move every crumb of pride off of the plate and let myself be sane. I knew that reading for 4-6 hours a day after having worked for 8 and ridden the bus for 4 simply wasn't realistic right now, so it got sent outside to live in the alley. And once my house gets clean, the kids are out of school for the summer and we acquire a vehicle, I'll pick that class back up with a renewed spirit and better balance.
Sometimes we have to digest the fact that everything we want to do in life doesn't need to be done right now. Regardless of motivation, ambition and drive, sanity has to prevail or nothing else will work effectively. Take time to evaluate the things that are most important in your life and then start with those. Determine if a task will be doable in a few weeks or months and then re-route your life accordingly. Then, remove unnecessary things altogether. If you're truly honest with yourself, you'll be able to find time and balance and you'll stop hearing yourself constantly saying, "I'm burnt out/too busy/too tired/worn out." Choose life; choose peace.